I handle everything around the house, she Now I'm going to get sick! If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. 2. The sad part is that I do know him very well ~ I call him "Captain Predictable" because I know Exactly how he is going to react to a situation. Wise1. BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. What should I do? People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. We went to the diner and my life changed. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. I was trying to do something simple. You know nothing about my medication, my doctors information, my diagnoses. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. Germaphobe type thing? WHAT? but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Terms. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. Love. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. When I'm sick no one asks what I need to make me less miserable. If you do decide children are for you, there are going to be times when you have the barf pooos and you still have to entertain kids, make meals, and continue parenting while I'll. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. Tell your spouse that although you WebWe Damaged Our Relationship When We Forgot to Care For Each Other Then we would take turns blaming each other. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. OMG. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. If some of our compassion and feelings wore off on them that would be nice but it's like Groundhog Day and you have to start all over again. He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. The texting got out of hand and the rest is history. Love, to me, is caring about the welfare of something and wanting to put in the effort and time and attention for it to grow and survive. The grass wasn't greener on the other side but my grass would probably never be any better so there needed to be changes on my side. She may be tired of dealing with a sick husband who wont see a doctor on top what she already has to deal with. Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. This is a great take. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Hi. I take and I take, and then I take some more. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. I have an illness. So I choose to let it go and know he is limited by the ADHD and other disorders that are undiagnosed until he can be humble and let go of his pride, and that right there is bigger than any disorder one can have. When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. So he's taking it easy today and napping on and off. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? After recovering from several hospitalizations, she went on to get a B.A. I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. I have learned to compartmentalize my life and he is 20% of it now. That's just great! She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. But know that people can take a while to be retrained to react differently. Instead he walked around the car, got in the back seat and proceeded to yell at me for the next 15 min about how "he does not have time for this" & "why did I call him(my husband) and not my sister or my niece". Angry loud voice- "Where do youwant to go!?" (not a good sign). Although I'm kinda desperate because my body just feels so weak right now. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. That is my H 100%! I signed up for a local meal prep service, where they prepped a few dinners. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. NOTHING HELPED. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. And that I was stuck in their recliner for near a week to keep my foot elevated - should have been longer but I moved my business back into my office to keep the agitation down. And for this, I am truly, deeply sorry. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). My husband is friendly and nice until I am sick. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. There absolutely is an empathy and emotional disconnect which fuels this, and without that empathy the rest of the ADHD partner's response is heavily coloured. I do believe he loves me. I know when I'm sick, I freak out about being a burden & not pulling my weight. Without question, without me asking. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. Bottom line? :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. That's just Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. with love respect and truth! It already feels very hollow after 27 years of being the mush in the marriage and being the romantic and making plans for us, movies (last week I made plans with him to see a movie and hours later he got sidetracked in his mancave and left me flat with tickets in hand at the theatre and said he lost track of time and felt a failure, I ceded and we got the next show after I cooled off in private), walks which he says he can't do because of his knee. They will always be more important than you. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. Run!!! How many people have you slept with in your life?? It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. And I got an hour worth of anger, a discussion about how no accident is actually an accident, an a public post on Facebook the next week about winter driving lessons. We have elementary aged children and he works at a demanding job. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. The unfinished projects and dreams. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. is already like this, it will only get worse. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. Submitted by c ur self on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:17, ( A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. He even broke the kitchen sink to where it only puts out hot water. We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. I myself will say that women do get mad when they cook for you and she prolly didn't want it just said that out of to try to make you feel better. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same Overall I think she has issues that a therapist would help with, but that will definitely end up in a fight. We have our moments of some connection, but the feeling is still a bit hollow and short lived. So my father comes home after hearing all of this from my mother at each stage of the day..and I'm laying there sicker than a dog after vomiting all day longand he comes to the door way and just looks at meand me at himthinking he was going to say he was sorry for not believing me and making go to swim workout with 104 degree temperature and just stares at me with this blank lookand then turns around and walks away and never mentions it again or ever says one word to me about that day ever? If they get ill first, and then I get ill? It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. In the first instance, you get his buy in. You never waver. Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. When I'm sick, yes. That's absurd. I am ok. No excuse on either side. I would not be happy with the scenario you outlined. We already talked last night and we good now. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without 3. Press J to jump to the feed. Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. Do you think being obnoxious made him FOND of me? Anyway, I got way off track here. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. Of course, the more the therapist learned, the more it just reinforced what he already knew. Theyve been together for 15 I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. WebPsychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. She says take medicine or go to doctor. Submitted by Orbital Seattlite on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 14:40. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. I was a great person to be around but the lies hurt and changed me. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. (Dirt, dust, cob webs, grease, filth, trash, broken stuff, computer junk, all over) Then there is the paperwork all over the place and our finances to get through. I have been enlightened and no longer feel alone. This becomes a real problem for me in one area especially. Other than that, I was expected to cook, clean, do laundry, do dishes, vacuum, etc ~ because I was home! I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. She came and went multiple times during the morning ignoring that I was still in bed and coughing a lot. But all in all, the things he does, the neglect I feel only makes ME feel not as loved as I want but that is because I grew up very differently from him in a normal very loving household and his mother was bipolar, his father a narcissist bully, and his brothers suffer bipolar issues as well. I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. Effective at making you get better because it was boring as shit. Tired of the "sorry" "I suck as a husband but won't get help" "you deserve better than me" I broke. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. Oops! (maybe?). (I'm not sure if he came over on the Friday night from 9 pm to 8 am.). He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. There's definitely a disconnect. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. Perhaps he would consider reading the free treatment e-book (look in the treatment guide for it) and also consider adding some 'attend time' to his schedule. It's the thought that matters <3. When she left for work she didn't even say goodbye. When you marry, the two working, bill-paying adults in the house should set the important stuff togetherlike budget, schedule, vacations, house rules. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. Do you think you can suggest implementing some of those changes without it dissolving into a fight? The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. She doesn't care that I am in pain because she feels my feelings are unfounded. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. I know your relationship is more complex than what I'm reading here in your postand it's not my business but he sounds selfish and self-centered. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. Commitment, sacrifice, partnering are too boring and difficult..not a part of love to H. Love is only themoment's pleasure to him. I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. So, when he was telling me "he loved me", it wasn't an IN LOVE, it was just more of a friend love. When I had the flu really bad my kids did too and I still had to take care of everybody. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. (again, fear). This goes so deep. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. I think that it's true. I cam home ( after working out for an hour feeling worse ) and told my mom and she took my temperature and it was like 104 degrees!! It dramatically affected my relationship for the worse. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. If you are in the full There is no shame in that, but again, I think fear is at the root of this issue. He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. And what Ive learned is, thats exactly why Im with you. He hates the snow. Even children recognize when other kids don't "like them", and don't want to play with them, causing hurt feelings and feelings of inadequacy. Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. A perfect opportunity to "prove" himself right ~ WRONG! Its good to have a healthy balance. There is something good though. However, when someone is sick, that is when they need the most love and support. tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. Submitted by kellyj on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 14:18. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. You're not the victim the kids are. Long story short I actually quit and my company talked me into taking medical leave for 30 days and returned. 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. I wish you the best. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. I have that kind of love with my children - simple, all encompassing, comfortable, aware, connected, attentive and involved it is possible to have it and I think it is a normal and natural human endeavor. We also had an outdoor wedding to attend two weeks after I broke my foot . And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. I guess its just a character flaw of his! All part of marriage, I guess. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Never underestimate the callousness of the narcissist. When my husband found out he was angry and said " I can't justify spending that kind of money. The entitlements and abrasive treatment of others. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. You know all the important things. Iv been with my partner only 2 years yet everytime hes sick he bails out to go with his mates or even when I'm not sick, that or either on his game all day. Emotionless. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. I am not my illness; I am a warrior. I am sorry for your situation. Always. Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. Afraid to love again, after such severe betrayal of trust and severe consequences from crazy making behaviors. He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. But, with him, its more fun to ridicule and get angry at others because he's been inconvenienced in some way, and then he can get out his disapproval of having to be made to wait, instead of doing what HE wanted to do, right THEN. Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. Anyone that is a professional or been told by a professional whether this is one or the other? If I am not in his presence at the moment, I am not on his mind. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. No expression. The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. It appears you entered an invalid email. Ask for forgiveness. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. Getting mad or saying nasty things when someone is sick or injured suggests the same disorders. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:18. Best of Luck to you all and I look forward to reading your story. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. Ihave neglected you. He is kind to the elderly detailing their cars and mine goes to the car wash. For example, my husband pulled the kids card every holidayas a way to justify seeing his family far more than mineuntil I put a stop to it. I hope he gets the help he needs! I, ME, MINE!! However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. (Different situation for the writer of this post.) I am the best thing he has ever had. this was my question. 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